I mentioned in the diabetic forum that my mom is mad at me right now, and this is why. A little background on my situation...I am 30 years old and have been living in California since I was 20. My family is in Hawaii (parents and older brother). When I moved to LA three years ago from Northern California, my mom was not too happy to say the least. I think she always thought/hoped I would move back home once I finished school. But I've always wanted to live in LA. I absolutely love living here, the only problem is that I can't fully support myself with what I get paid as a vet tech. My dad owns his own business and makes good money and he has always been willing and able to help me out. I'm very appreciative of that but I do want to be able to fully support myself. I can't do that as long as I live in LA and am living by myself.
So my parents have been talking about remodeling their house and they are going to build a separate little unit attached to the main house for me to live in. When I was home a couple weeks ago my mom told me about this idea and I agreed that once the unit was built, I would move back. I really don't want to move back at this point in my life, but this way I can have a place to live rent free and I can save up some money. Then once I have enough saved, I can move out and either move back to LA if I want or get my own place in Hawaii. Sounds reasonable, right? Well my mom doesn't agree. She basically told me last night that wasn't part of the deal, and it doesn't make any sense for me to live there for a few years and then move back to LA. She says that I still won't be able to fully support myself with what I've saved. But by that time, I'll have a lot more years of work experience and hopefully will be able to get a better paying job. Shouldn't it be my decision to live where I want if I can afford it? I told her I don't want to be living at home when I'm 40, she doesn't see the problem with that.
Basically the only way she'll let me move out is if I find a guy in Hawaii and get married, then I can move in with him. But I think even then she'll insist that I can't move back to LA. She doesn't get that I should be allowed to live my life the way I want, and not the way she wants. I just don't know how to get through to her!
So my parents have been talking about remodeling their house and they are going to build a separate little unit attached to the main house for me to live in. When I was home a couple weeks ago my mom told me about this idea and I agreed that once the unit was built, I would move back. I really don't want to move back at this point in my life, but this way I can have a place to live rent free and I can save up some money. Then once I have enough saved, I can move out and either move back to LA if I want or get my own place in Hawaii. Sounds reasonable, right? Well my mom doesn't agree. She basically told me last night that wasn't part of the deal, and it doesn't make any sense for me to live there for a few years and then move back to LA. She says that I still won't be able to fully support myself with what I've saved. But by that time, I'll have a lot more years of work experience and hopefully will be able to get a better paying job. Shouldn't it be my decision to live where I want if I can afford it? I told her I don't want to be living at home when I'm 40, she doesn't see the problem with that.
Basically the only way she'll let me move out is if I find a guy in Hawaii and get married, then I can move in with him. But I think even then she'll insist that I can't move back to LA. She doesn't get that I should be allowed to live my life the way I want, and not the way she wants. I just don't know how to get through to her!
